Psychology of the Employment Search

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In a time of your life when you are seeking a career or maybe just a job, you need to examine the psychology that is driving your thoughts and setting your priorities in order to find your perfect job.  I know a few people that are currently seeking a better career. They are all unhappy in their current job and want something more engaging, something they can really wrap their arms around. I agree sometimes we need to look for a new job to be happy.  I remember hearing a job guru say when I was just out of high school:

If you dread Mondays and live for the weekends you are in the wrong job

I think that’s true. I’m very happy as a teacher but I don’t think I am 100% happy. There is always that something around the bend in my mind. Maybe it’s “the grass is greener” or something like that. I don’t think I could do anything that I loved as much as teaching though, so I stay. There lays the first rule in finding the perfect job:

Don’t look for the job you will love, look for the job you dislike the least

Here’s a case in point: If “John” has 5 jobs from an online job search and none are jobs he really “loves,” he should decide to pursue the job he hates the least. I know that sounds really sell out, but it is an “active” step.  To pursue none is for sure a lose/lose option.

Once you are seeking the job you dislike the least, you can see clearly to get there faster and with more vigor. That’s the second thing you can do to find the perfect job opportunity:

Set priorities in direction of goals

Now that you know your direction, you can set your priorities in that direction. For example, if you want an accountant job, you can check out the local college CPA program. You can start getting the aid you may need and enroll in the courses. No more procrastination and waiting around for a “pie in the sky” job that you yourself probably couldn’t even define. I think waiting for the perfect job can act as a sort of excuse for not advancing toward your inner dreams. That leads us to the third thing you can do:

Keep your head down like a runner in a race and run toward your finish line.

Once you know the goal, all you need to do is run toward it. It has been said that “if you aim at nothing, you will surely hit it.” At this stage of the game you are moving aggressively toward your goal. I can imagine some people reading this might say: “There are no jobs.” I respond to that with this: “There are jobs, maybe not the one you want so go back to what I said at the beginning: ‘pick the job you dislike the least.’”

In fact, that’s how I picked my major in college. I hated math, history was boring, and there were too many dates to remember. Science was all math so that just left literature. I hated English class, but I liked reading stories. Now, all these years later, I am very grateful for my teaching career and I get to make English lessons fun for 9 year olds. I wonder if I would be where I am today if I hadn’t decided to accept the path I disliked the least. What are your “real” options for work right now?

My Favorite T-Shirt

fave tThis is a picture of me in my favorite T-Shirt. I love this thing. It’s comfortable, it’s funny, but most of all … it’s the best line in a Christmas movie ever: “I triple dog dare ya!”  Do you have a favorite t-shirt? What is it? Does it say anything? You can’t have enough cotton t-shirts can you? I actually have shirts I like that are plain colors but the ones that get the most attention and bring a laugh to the room are the ones with a slogan or picture. I remember when I played my first gig up here in the high desert my wife got me a shirt that read “Want to keep a dummy in suspense see back of shirt.” I’m sure you know what everybody had me doing all night after the show! It was a great ice breaker.  T-shirts are also great things to wear for your social media and networking photos.  They are accessible to everybody.

T-shirts are awesome. You should shop for some right now at Crazy Dog t-shirts. Shipping is only $4 right now, so you should order quick before the sale ends. I have never seen such a variety of tees whether it be in a mall, a corner store, or online.

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How to Make Acronyms for Personal Development

TypewriterThis post is about how I come up with acronyms for self-improvement. The process of making them is difficult, but recalling them after that is easy. At New Year’s cusp, people are thinking about resolutions but shouldn’t we be thinking about them all year long. Trying to reinvent ones self once every year can have some value but ongoing changes throughout the year can show greater results. Continuous improvement is what I strive for and I use self-invented acronyms to work at it.

These funny little words really work!

The reason I use acronyms is because they are easy to remember. For example, I use the acronym “CAN” on my personal blog when I am setting blog goals: Circulation, Analytics, Net. Another example is my new year’s post about COG: Collect, Originate, and Guide. It’s been proven the human mind can only process about 3 ideas at a time.  That’s why I think these acronyms are so effective for me.

The first three words are yours!

At the beginning of the process, write down three words you want to focus on. For example, a horse trainer might list:

patience, people, volume

Each word has a lot of idiosyncratic meaning to the individual. You can imagine what these three words might mean to a horse trainer as opposed to say, a lawyer.

Next in the process come up with a three letter word you will use as your acronym. It doesn’t matter if it’s related to the three words you just chose, but you should find the imagery of the word pleasing. Here is a webpage of Scrabble 3 letter words where I sometimes find mine.

To illustrate, let’s say the horse trainer chooses the word: ACT as his acronym.

That leads to the most fun step in my opinion. It’s also the step that takes the most time. Come up with three words that start with the letters ACT.  Each word should represent one of the word-meanings you came up with when you started the process ie; patience, people, volume.

This can take a lot of trial and error until you get it right but once you are done you “own” the acronym. Take this as a possibility:

Allow (patience)
Culture (people)
Tons (volume)

Now the horse trainer can go to work thinking about the meaningful acronym “ACT.” He has given his job and life a more precise focus. I chose nouns for this example, but you can choose action verbs as well.   A resource you might find useful is this list of action verbs by letter. If you give this a try, enjoy youself, have fun with it. Whatever you do, don’t see it as a chore.  When it comes to personal development and self-improvement, I swear by my acronyms.

Blog Safari :: Readers’ Best Posts of 2008

I asked my readers here and the members of Blog Catalog to give me a link to and a blurb about their post of 2008.  The results are below. Note: The BC entries have a profile link before the blurb, please don’t mistake that for the actual “best post.”

Many are amazing. Some are sublime.  All  are worth reading.  Happy blogging in 2009 everybody!

I grouped the links first by those submitted here and next those submitted to me through Blog Catalog Discussions. Note: I took the liberty of omitting spam and some stuff I just didn’t “get.”

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This was my most successful post to date in almost every way (visits, comments, etc.) and although it was painstaking to create, it was exciting to do something completely original that I knew people would appreciate.

From my new blog about psychotherapy, I chose the post: Is that a blue shirt you’re wearing, Doc, or are you just happy to see a Democrat? Values and voting choices in psychotherapy.

tinyurl.com/8k8cd3

The post captured some responses to the ‘08 election, offered a glimpse of life in psychotherapy (which is to be the focus of the blog), and led to some passionate responses.

Here’s to more posts in ‘09!

Hi there:

I selected An Unexpected Independence Day Celebration (mixedmetaphor.net/2008/07/03/independence-day-cele...) because I believe it is one of my best-crafted short stories. It is based not upon one particular person, but, rather, several people who are dear to me, including a special couple in whose honor I wrote the piece as a way of demonstrating my affection for them upon the occasion of their wedding.

My second choice for 2008 is The Keys to Her Future (mixedmetaphor.net/2008/07/03/independence-day-cele...).

I appreciate your implementing this project and allowing your readers to gain more exposure for their work!

My 2008 best post - and my personal favorite - was one of my shortest, four lines plus photos. It expressed exactly what I wanted it to: HOPE.

When You Only See the Dark

Well, that’s going to be easy! After all, I just did this for Joanna…

Here’s my blurb:

This post is, in my humble opinion, the best simply because of the reactions it received. Not the number of comments, but mainly because of what was said. So far, it’s been a standout in that regard.

I mean, I never get tired of sharing this particular story. So of course anytime I get the chance, I can’t help but tell it again. It never fails to make me… well, let’s just say that when Mrs. MZM read it, there wasn’t a dry eye in the house.

Here’s the link:

What I Learned From a Generous Heart

Hey Damien,

Thanks for giving us all a chance to show off a little bit! My site is newer, so I don’t have much to pull from in 2008, but one of my best posts was definitely Magpie Tries To Make Twitter An Ad Network, Fails (thefutureofads.com/2008/11/03/magpie-tries-to-make...) in which I looked at the Twitter ad network and why I don’t think it was the appropriate way to market to Twitter users given the way that conversation and interaction happens on the site.

I think this was my best post because it sparked a lot of interesting discussions in the comments area, and it served as a point of reference for many of the debates that occurred about Magpie across the Internet. The post also took a deep dive into the way that people use Twitter, and examined the way that conversations happen now online given the new tools that we have at our disposal, as well as the Twitter network’s desire to police itself and keep the lines of communication open and pure.

I look forward to seeing the rest of the Best of ‘08, and thanks again for putting on such a great project!

- Cory

Hmm… Looks like my link didn’t get activated. Let’s try that again: thefutureofads.com/2008/11/03/magpie-tries-to-make...

Hi Damien,

Here is my entry:

etechbuzz.com/tips-to-earn-more-revenue-from-adsen...

Making decent money from Google Adsense is always everyone’s dream. If you want this dream come true here I have shared 20+ practical tips for earning more money from Google Adsense. This is hard core material about increasing the Adsense revenue and not possible for anyone to double the income just overnight.

Thanks for this opportunity, Damien.

I’d say that my best post of 2008 was one of my more recent, a holiday post:

This post was popular because any pet owner or animal lover will recognize what happens in this story, which ends with a song by man-eating plant from outer space.

Thanks again.

I am going to say this job search tips post is our best, and our last for 2008. It ties into to lots going on in the economy and the persistence of hope and optimism.

head2head.ca/blogphp?pl=9f714e1039aa104d5ea096bf5d...

Ok, my fav post is this one: How To Live a Life Less Ordinary
tinyurl.com/7rqh9a
It encapsulates my intentions for blogging and drives home my belief that everyone is special.
Amy
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Hi Damien - thanks for creating this opportunity to submit our best post of 2008.

I chose this as the best post of 2008: talkmoneycafe.com/?p=182

I chose this post because it attracted a lot of visitors and posed an interesting question: Do you have a large surplus, or are you being controlled by those who do? In addition to addressing this issue of control, this post also highlights the benefits of having a healthy surplus of funds (i.e. more than you need).

From Blog Catalog:

Oh, here’s mine. I couldn’t really decide. I think I might have closed my eyes. Maybe. Then I asked myself, What Would Jesus Do? Or something.

psychocarnival.blogspot.com/2008/03/antics-from-de...

This would probably be one of my best posts, I have had almost 900 views on it since it was created:
dragonblogger.com/2008/09/mozilla-songbird-managin...

This post is for people using Linux and managing their iPods with SongBird software.

This is my best post i think for 2008. This is my most commented entry and most discussed among friends and collegues. Their reactions inspired me to go on writing as they gave me moral support and assurance that i am good at what i am doing. This may not be on the serious side but humour is what I am inclined to, so pardon if u find this article a bit too shallow for your taste. A link on your site would make me more than happy enough. Anything more than that is a bonus.

mizdemeanor.net/2008/11/25/r-u-have-a-yahoo-messen...

I haven’t yet written that many posts (only started blogging last month) but this one’s had some nice feedback in the short time its been posted:

rizsmartialartstraining.blogspot.com/2008/12/diffe...

Tigers, Climate Change and the Economy

kirat92.blogspot.com/2008/10/tigers-forests-climat...

Our intention for this post was for it to be thought-provoking.

exploringthebush.blogspot.com/2008/12/would-you-ma...

Gotta go with my 50 Free Sites to Watch Movies & TV Online post. I put the most research, effort and time into the 5-part series. It also increased my traffic from 100 daily views to an average of 1000 daily views.

eazycheezy.net/2008/09/watch-tv-and-movies-online....

I’m partial to this one from Sept 27. The poem is about a recurring dream and is called “Recurrence”. As a cancer survivor I thought my readers might freak-out if they saw a post with this name, so the post is untitled.
lulu-haiku.blogspot.com/2008/09/untitled.html
This is an early, no frills (before I learned how to upload images) one, but pretty much sums up what Yoga for Cynics is about….

yogaforcynics.blogspot.com/2008/06/probably-not-be...

I don’t know if it’s my BEST, but I like it a lot. howjoeseesit.com/2008/12/tao-of-trouble-beagle.htm...
I really don’t know. But I think this one is so close to my heart it made me teary-eyed writing this:

hangingonahyphen.blogspot.com/2008/10/finding-miss...

probably the following and thanks for the opportunity for a little bc promotion:

cranelegspond.blogspot.com/2007/10/424-pocket-full...

The one that got the most hits for me is this short one:
gearsofrock.wordpress.com/2008/08/28/review-acdc-r...

It was a toss up between two:

arcticulates.org/glimpse-autumn.html

Here are the two people seemed to like a lot.

chaoticallycalm.blogspot.com/2008/10/personal-spac...

My longest and most read post is now irrelevant: “The Case Against Sarah Palin,” which I posted on Sept. 4th, when she was still relatively unknown. markstoneman.wordpress.com/2008/09/04/the-case-aga...

phailpail.com/2008/12/wo-wo-wo-windows-windows-386...

I found an unbelievably cheesy video that Microsoft released to promote its Windows platform back in the 80s. This post is a description of just how godawful the video was.

I’ve already posted one on the other thread but this one probably gets the most hits and I’m still getting comments on it!

myadventuresinhistory.blogspot.com/2008/07/histori...

well this is my most read post so it must have struck a chord with people

tinyurl.com/8le6pm

My photo blog post for snow river national park

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I had no less than FOUR people comment that they peed their pants while reading this:

deadrooster.com/humor/dead-rooster-survives-bug-at...

As a humor blogger, what could be a better endorsement than readers wetting their pants?

The end.

Defending Psychotherapy

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There’s a new book out questioning whether psychotherapy works and whether it ever worked for that matter. As I read the review, I found myself saddened at the lengths to which the author had apparently gone to imply that psychotherapy doesn’t work and that it has blossomed in recent decades as a result of surreptitious intentions. In fairness I haven’t read the book, only a review of it. Still, it brings up a real topic.

Why do healthy people get mad at ill people?

No family can ever know the sting of mental illness until they have been through it with a loved one. The numbers of those afflicted with clinical disorders is a small percentage of the population so it is highly likely many people will never go through that sort of experience. This is unfortunate because books and articles and even talk shows at times paint mental illness as some form of lepersy. The fact of the matter is that many perfectly sane people engage in behavior much more dangerous than mentally ill people.

Is mental health a real science?

Depressed people are ridiculed by friends and family often because they can’t just “pull themselves up by their own bootstraps.” This tends to even be a sort of professional view nowadays of psychiatry and psychotherapy in general. My wife and I even got some strange stares a while back when we shared we were going to a marriage therapist. I don’t care what anybody thinks, the cognitive stuff we got from that will help us our entire marriage. Some stuff was complex like the REBT theories and other stuff was simple like “mirroring” what the other said as a form of “active listening.” What educated person would say psychotherapy like that was false?

Think of those who suffer.

I do believe drugs are a bit over-prescribed but the point the cynics are missing is this: peoples’ suffering is being alleviated by psychotherapy. Go sit in an ER in the middle of the night and watch what comes in. You’ll see a miscarriage or two, a heart attack maybe, stroke, and maybe a young girl who thinks her phone is tapped. She’ll be so upset they’ll need to restrain her. Where will the cynics be then? They’ll be sleeping in their beds, able to sleep no less, with their alarm clocks set to wake them up to ordinary lives.

Does psychotherapy work?

Not only do I believe psychotherapy works, I think it is a collective work of genius. The cognitive strategies extant can help us through any difficulty. They aren’t 100% successful but what medical procedure is? To say that mental illness is “normal” and we are all the same is dangerous. As a society we should recognize some people are “touched” with too much madness and we should do all we can whether it be creating drugs or creating cognitive strategies to alleviate that collective suffering. If false stigmas continue it could feasibly have profound effects on the mentally ill such as the difficulty of getting life insurance quotes. Let’s hope it doesn’t go that way.

Affordable Web Hosting I Recommend

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I want to recommend, to those starting up self-hosted Wordpress blogs, imhosting.com for affordable web hosting.

Lately I have been doing the old fashioned form of marketing my blogs, through people.  Instead of trying to get a click here or a click there, I’ve been getting to know people through Blog Catalog and a handful of other social networks you can find linked in my sidebar in the area entitled, “Follow Me.”  In my communications I have started to mentor 2 people who both needed website hosting.  I didn’t have to think twice, I knew right away the one to recommend.  Both these people noted to me they didn’t have much money.  One told me she thought hosting was like $100 a month or so.  I of course laughed.  This one starts at $6.95 a month.

As you may have heard me say on here before on my personal blog, it’s quite easy to make $100-400 a month doing sponsored posts.  Well, if these two start doing that the amount per month is paid in the first post.  Having your own web host is the future.  Free blog services are too limited for the opportunities growing every day.  Try imhosted.com to get your self-hosted blog going.  You’ll be glad you did and your pocket book will thank you every month.

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YOUR BEST POST OF 2008! Submit by December 30th, 2008, 9pm pst

I’m asking for your best post of 2008 to be linked here for New Years. Let me explain how this came about:

I first got the idea from Confdent Writing (I am listed as #23) and tried doing my own in a forum I frequent.

I am a member of a blog directory called Blog Catalog. I enjoy the Discussions over there quite a bit and recently I asked for peoples’ “best post of 2008.” I plan to publish the results tomorrow night, December 30, 9pm pst here on Postcards. Although this site is dedicated to psychology and inspiration, it has the most readers of all my blogs and I wanted to broadcast these posts as far as possible.

While I meant for this to be strictly for my Blog Catalog cohorts, I’d now like very much to get some of my bloggy friends and subscribers into the list. If interested in getting your “best post of 2008″ more exposure, please leave it in the comments with a 30-40 word blurb about why you selected it. If you do not lave a blurb I will just post the link.  If I don’t get them from some of my good friends I may choose my favorite and link it as such. Maybe the exposure will get you a pair of nice new Hamilton watches. Have you checked them out yet?

You should get some exposure. In the last 30 days, this blog has received 11,316 visitors:
GA December 2008

Just a little last minute incentive. Thanks to all of you out there! Let me feature your best post of 2008.  BTW, I do reserve the right to NOT post spam and practical joke type stuff.  Thanks for understanding.

NOTE: As of now 9:50pm December 30th, the submission window is closed.

My Christmas Present [video]

Sarah bought me a cool gift for my Jeep this year. This is me explaining and sharing it. What you don’t see is that is around 40 degrees outside. brrrrrr.


My #1 Post Here in 2008

To be part of a cool Confident Writing group writing project, I needed to go back though the hundreds of posts I wrote last year and choose one I think is the best.  That was tough. There were ten or so that gave me a smile as I recalled the inspiration and circumstances surrounding them but one post entitled Accept Everything one stood out above the rest. That is the one I have chosen.  I wrote it in July but like it still and I am glad to say its post permalink has had 4,901 views as of 12-22-08.  Now for the real challenge: Joanna wants us to introduce our post in 30 words or less.  Here goes nothin’! This post is simply the best because:  In my thirties, I’ve grown up and learned stress is overrated. I want to be a person who lives the mantra “Accept Everything.”