Potential Offense
I have a job where I am constantly second guessing things I can say and examples I can give as to their apporpriateness. I teach 9 year olds. Through the years I have learned that humor can open up closed minds to learning so I have many “rated G” stories I apply to lessons when appropriate. Sometimes, however, I find out things I thought were appropriate were not taken as such by parents. When you start your year as a teacher and with a new class, you are not just speaking to 30 kids you are speaking to their parents and anyone else you can imagine in their world as well. Some parents might have quite lower moral compasses than you and others much higher. Hence the healthy fear thing :)
A classic example is when 2 years ago I showed a scene from “Nacho Libre” as part of a science lesson on muscles. In my house, we all love Nacho Libre. Jack Black is one of my favorite actors since he did “High Fidelity” with John Cusack and his recent more kid-friendly movies are all on our shelf. Nonetheless, when the 24 year old mother met me at my classroom door and ordered me very vehemently to not show that anymore in class, I was taken aback. It’s amazing how we have the actors and musicians of the world pulling in millions per video and/or CD telling our culture what’s funny and then we have teachers barely making it on 30-80K a year and we have to sort through it all to determine what’s appropriate for class. Balanced?
A footnote to that story is that the child came up to me a year later and shared with me that her parents finally rented the DVD and now the family loves it.
As a teacher you have to be constantly aware of what “might” offend. That might be a good trait for my writing/blogging job as well. But then again, they say controversy sells print.
When I first started teaching in Santa Ana, California at a little inner city school called Diamond Elementary, I first got a sting on this issue. As some of you know, my best friend Eric Stefani, not only started a famous band called “No Doubt” in the late 80’s, but also spent many years on the payroll as an animator for the Simpsons, Ren and Stimpy, and other excellent animated series through the 90’s and 2000’s. I wanted my kids to see the enthusiasm in his career, since they had little in their lives. I asked him to come in and speak to them about being an animator. He came in and did a great job for someone not accustomed to speaking to kids. It was all good until the end when he showed an uncensored video of a Simpsons episode. He was explaining how not everything makes it to TV. It wasn’t much, just a guy getting his cartoon head lopped off with an axe. The Principal was concerned and let me know.
Since I shared that with my friend he’s been much more reticent to speak to my kids. For example, my summer school kids want him to speak to them and he might be hesitant if I asked him. In fact, I probably won’t out of respect for him.
I can’t complain about the fear of offending since I chose my profession as a grownup (27 in 1997 now 39 in 2008). But I do wish sometimes people didn’t worry so much about shielding kids from the world they are only a few years from. As a teacher, my goal is to not just impart knowledge but ignite in them a zest for the world they live in.
When people judge teachers for what they present, they should take intent strongly into consideraton. Have you ever offended someone without realizing it?
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Potential Offense
Link | June 28th, 2008 at 6:11 am
Katelyn
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My little sister (13) came home from school the other day and told me that two of her school mates, both girls, were making out in the hallway. I think that parents need to get the whole story before they get worried about cartoon heads being lopped off or other “offensive” sights. If they’re really worried about not letting their children see this type of thing, they need to keep them home. Life is full of things we don’t agree with, it’s not about not letting your children see these things, it’s about teaching them that, although they exsist, it doesn’t mean they’re right.
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Link | June 27th, 2008 at 7:41 pm
jonas
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its a real fear. Sometimes its hard to say things as you please because other people easily get offended in certain topics.
I have an urge to teach but i think im short in patience. Might end up shouting instead of speaking lols.
But i hope parent would be a little loose in being too strict to their children because in my observation, it hinders the persons growth thus not realizing his full potential.
nice post
Link | June 28th, 2008 at 1:21 am
Michelle
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It seems like everyday, a person is “allowed” to say less and less. When did our words become so censored? As a teacher, you are supposed to teach, but how are you supposed to teach when there isn’t much you can say anymore, at least not about real life.
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Link | June 28th, 2008 at 1:27 am
Damien Riley
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@Katelyn: I am dreading the teens for my son. My wife and I have subbed 7-12 and they are rough grades for the making out etc. I guess you just have to keep reminding kids that you love them and tell them the right thing to do.
@Jonas: Thank you for your nice comment. teaching is a job, probably no tougher than most out there. Sometimes I like to complain though. Thanks for agreeing!
@Michelle: I don’t have any answers really but it is really limiting teachers’ ability to teach when you have to be so eminently careful all the time with them about how the world works. Having said that, I’m a big fan of public education, I just want it more perfect ;) Thanks for your comment.
Link | June 28th, 2008 at 5:25 am
Nick
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While I try to keep my comments and stories “appropriate” and “tasteful” I have quit trying to not offend anyone. If you go around trying to be sure you don’t offend anyone, you will do nothing but worry and almost never be successful.
The best thing I have found is that if someone is offended either make your remark, example, whatever into a joke (most people are only offended by seriousness and not humor) completely change the subject, or appologize and move on to a different topic.
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Link | June 30th, 2008 at 6:32 am
Jessica The Rock Chick
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I can’t remember where I read this but there was some study done that said that no matter what you say, 2% of the people on the planet would be “offended” by it.
Sometimes I think it’s almost a trend now to be offended.
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Link | June 30th, 2008 at 12:30 pm
Damien Riley
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@Jessica: I agree with that figure and in my job add about 40%.
@Nick: Agreed. Humor is the best medicine!
Link | June 30th, 2008 at 2:48 pm