Stop, Look, and Support
Table of contents for The Practice of Having an Open Mind
- Power of Mantra
- Listening Experiment
- Accept Everything
- Just Live it
- Jonestown Kool Aid and Grandpa’s Trash Bins
- Try Being Humble, Really Humble
- Embracing Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy
- Success by Yellow Pad
- Prepare to Meet the Villain
- Paradigm Shifts and Ordinary Enlightenment
- Stop, Look, and Support
- The Practice of Empathy
There comes a time in life when we have done all we can do and the only thing left is to wait through the day to day. I have a bloggy friend, for example, who has been given her share of lemons and is trying desperately to make lemonade. What should she do when she’s finished stirring? Stop, look, and support those around her. Of course, we should be supportive at all times but sometimes more than others, we have a real opportunity to just support. In turn, we get a clear perspective.
Another example is that my wife has been taking some real strides in parenting. I am so glad to see the charts she has created for our son and daughters to get them in bed on time and without turmoil. I’ve been helping as much as I can and I really see nothing to add to her new methods, they are wonderful. So how can I let my wife know I appreciate what she is doing? Support her parenting. I think most spouses want to be respected and supported. So, when I don’t know what else to do: I can stop, look, and support.
At work, you might be in a position of leadership. If so, offer support to those you lead. If you are not in leadership, offer support to the leader above you. Support her/his ability to lead. You may find these connections become highly valuable to you and your advancement. Most people appreciate support. It’s a very good bet they will notice the support you give.
With your own kids, or your nieces and nephews if you don’t have kids, support their role as students of life. You can turn even adolescent indifference into wonder if you just stay faithful as a supportive force. When you have a bad day, kids can tell. Make sure you show them through their actions that being supportive is possible even when the chips are down.
I’ve heard doctors say that the practice of medicine is just keeping the patient calm while mother nature does the work. You can be something like an “inspiration doctor” simply through support. The way to support varies from person to person but figuring it out is usually not too complicated . Give it a try. Why not go into today being aware of this. Don’t miss your chance to be a great force in your world: stop, look, and support.
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Beautiful article. And yes, I’m still stirring :)
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Thanks for letting me know. Keep adding that sugar of support.
I could not agree with this article more, as a manager in my job. I had to support my staff not only through work jobs, but when they have personal issues too that comes into the work place. I had an employee go through a divorce last year and I adjusted and flexed his schedule to accommodate him having to adjust to having his kids every other week. I also try to be extremely supportive of my family, whether its small (son has a bad day in school), or big (friend of my wife’s is very sick).
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I think as guys we are always looking to “do” when it is so much more helpful to simply support our wives etc. Thanks for that comment Justin. I hope your wife gets through the thing with her friend ok.
Is this ever great advise. I know I can get so caught up with my own life that I forget to look around and see who I can lift or just be available for them when needed. As is always the case, the more I’m aware and available for others, the less concerned or weighed-down I feel about my own challenges. Funny how we can get so sidetracked. Thanks to you for redirecting us with what brings us the most joy - helping others.
B. Wilde, thank you for your comments! It is true that what you give out comes back.
Something so obvious yet so often over-looked. Thanks for the reminder that sometimes we just need to sit-back and be there for those around us. To be hands off and encourage them in what they do.
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