Comments on: Stop The Criticism, Inspire Your Children http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/stop-the-criticism-inspire-your-children/ Thinking outside the box. Wondering at the world. Thu, 04 Dec 2008 20:38:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Jessica The Rock Chi http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/stop-the-criticism-inspire-your-children/#comment-2886 Jessica The Rock Chi Fri, 02 May 2008 05:01:22 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/?p=1353#comment-2886 Halleluia, Derek! This is one of my pet peeves. I have four teenagers and they all participate in competitive sports to some extent. My son plays almost every sport and if it's not the coach criticizing something, it's some parent watching the game. Honestly, with my complete lack of sports skills, I think it's fabulous that anyone could hit a ball with a bat to begin with, but these games are supposed to be fun. If the kids have to worry about every little play or every mistake, it's no fun anymore. Your post was awesome!!! Jessica The Rock Chis last blog post..<a href="http://lifeisrantastic.blogspot.com/2008/05/shuffle-off.html" rel="nofollow">Shuffle Off</a> Halleluia, Derek! This is one of my pet peeves. I have four teenagers and they all participate in competitive sports to some extent. My son plays almost every sport and if it’s not the coach criticizing something, it’s some parent watching the game.

Honestly, with my complete lack of sports skills, I think it’s fabulous that anyone could hit a ball with a bat to begin with, but these games are supposed to be fun.

If the kids have to worry about every little play or every mistake, it’s no fun anymore.

Your post was awesome!!!

Jessica The Rock Chis last blog post..Shuffle Off

]]> By: Inspire Your Children :: Guest Post At Postcards From The Funny Farm | The Man Page http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/stop-the-criticism-inspire-your-children/#comment-2884 Inspire Your Children :: Guest Post At Postcards From The Funny Farm | The Man Page Thu, 01 May 2008 01:56:04 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/?p=1353#comment-2884 [...] Stop the criticism, inspire your children. [...] [...] Stop the criticism, inspire your children. [...]

]]> By: Derek http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/stop-the-criticism-inspire-your-children/#comment-2883 Derek Thu, 01 May 2008 01:12:33 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/?p=1353#comment-2883 Damien, thank you for opening your blog to me and granting me the floor to share with your community. It was a lot of fun to bring my dad spin to something that I thought would fit with some of the recent discussion. @CC @Katelyn @Chelle :: Thanks for the kind words, I am happy to hear that you enjoyed the post. =) Dereks last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/dad-balance/~3/280321965/" rel="nofollow">Manival And Alltop :: Men On The Interweb</a> Damien, thank you for opening your blog to me and granting me the floor to share with your community. It was a lot of fun to bring my dad spin to something that I thought would fit with some of the recent discussion.

@CC
@Katelyn
@Chelle :: Thanks for the kind words, I am happy to hear that you enjoyed the post. =)

Dereks last blog post..Manival And Alltop :: Men On The Interweb

]]> By: Chelle http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/stop-the-criticism-inspire-your-children/#comment-2882 Chelle Wed, 30 Apr 2008 18:59:11 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/?p=1353#comment-2882 This is fantastic wisdom - it is awful how some parents get overworked about things like little league!! I find myself constantly remembering what it was like to be the kid now that I'm the mom and try to find that balance :) I'm going to have to read some other things you've written now!! Chelles last blog post..<a href="http://www.itmightbelove.com/2008/04/30/8-fun-ideas-for-coloring-book-pages/" rel="nofollow">8 Fun Ideas for Coloring Book Pages</a> This is fantastic wisdom - it is awful how some parents get overworked about things like little league!! I find myself constantly remembering what it was like to be the kid now that I’m the mom and try to find that balance :) I’m going to have to read some other things you’ve written now!!

Chelles last blog post..8 Fun Ideas for Coloring Book Pages

]]> By: Katelyn http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/stop-the-criticism-inspire-your-children/#comment-2878 Katelyn Wed, 30 Apr 2008 17:33:35 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/?p=1353#comment-2878 Great post Derek! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us! I completely agree with you. I don't have kids yet, but I see this issue happening between my parents and their younger kids and even between my mom and dad. My mom in law is the total opposite, she's perfect this way, always listening and encouraging, just being there when you need to talk. That's how I want to be. It's so important to be a friend to your kids, not just their parent. Katelyns last blog post..<a href="http://katelynjanesnotebook.blogspot.com/2008/04/memories.html" rel="nofollow">~Memories~</a> Great post Derek! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us! I completely agree with you. I don’t have kids yet, but I see this issue happening between my parents and their younger kids and even between my mom and dad. My mom in law is the total opposite, she’s perfect this way, always listening and encouraging, just being there when you need to talk. That’s how I want to be. It’s so important to be a friend to your kids, not just their parent.

Katelyns last blog post..~Memories~

]]> By: Canadian consultants http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/stop-the-criticism-inspire-your-children/#comment-2881 Canadian consultants Wed, 30 Apr 2008 15:57:40 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/?p=1353#comment-2881 I fully agree with what you said. In addition, the encouragement to children is also important to their growth. I fully agree with what you said. In addition, the encouragement to children is also important to their growth.

]]> By: Damien Riley http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/stop-the-criticism-inspire-your-children/#comment-2880 Damien Riley Wed, 30 Apr 2008 15:03:11 +0000 http://www.postcardsfromthefunnyfarm.com/?p=1353#comment-2880 Great post Derek, thanks again. I especially liked the thought "If you feel that criticism is necessary, save it for a casual conversation days after the performance, not immediately afterwards on the trip home." I have been wrestling with "waiting" to criticize and to parent until a better time. I tend to react wherever I am with my son. Since we parents are adults, we should be able to exercise restraint and think about what is really worth saying ... a lot of the stuff I give my son is just thinking out loud and should it happen to be something that hurts his feelings, he will never forget it. I know this based on experiences with my own dad. Kids tend to remember the dark stuff and forget all the great memories. Solution? Lessen the number of dark times. We're in control now and that means responsibility. One day we'll be in our empty houses praying our kids come to visit us. If we criticize them all the time, what good is that going to do them or us in 20 years? Thanks for donating some dad energy to the Funny Farm, you blew this one out of the water man - I appreciate it! The best part about you guys guest posting is that I just get to kick back for few ;) Great post Derek, thanks again. I especially liked the thought “If you feel that criticism is necessary, save it for a casual conversation days after the performance, not immediately afterwards on the trip home.”

I have been wrestling with “waiting” to criticize and to parent until a better time. I tend to react wherever I am with my son. Since we parents are adults, we should be able to exercise restraint and think about what is really worth saying … a lot of the stuff I give my son is just thinking out loud and should it happen to be something that hurts his feelings, he will never forget it. I know this based on experiences with my own dad. Kids tend to remember the dark stuff and forget all the great memories. Solution? Lessen the number of dark times.

We’re in control now and that means responsibility. One day we’ll be in our empty houses praying our kids come to visit us. If we criticize them all the time, what good is that going to do them or us in 20 years?

Thanks for donating some dad energy to the Funny Farm, you blew this one out of the water man - I appreciate it! The best part about you guys guest posting is that I just get to kick back for few ;)

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